Thanks for tuning for part two of my value series. If you missed part I you can find it here.
Below are my five least important values in my life right now. I know you may be thinking “if something is a value then how can it not be important?” Good question, but for the purposes of this assignment I had to do, I will call these characteristics, principles, etc “values” to have consistency. I’m sure some of you will probably agree with a couple I have while one or two might raise some eyebrows. That being said, here we go!
Least Most Important Values:
- Materialism: Materialism includes things like money, clothes, and other tangible possessions that today’s modern society seems to value very much. Don’t get me wrong, it would very nice to be rich and have anything I wanted, but I don’t think that’s what life is all about. I think wealth, money and possessions can only do so much. I think finding a purpose in life, doing hobbies you enjoy, and forming meaningful relationships with people are far more important than how big your house is.
- Acceptance: When I say acceptance, I’m talking about the desire or urge to be accepted by others. If we put on a false front for people they will never know how we really are and what we are capable of. Just think of historical figures such as Jesus, Ghandi, and Martin Luther King Jr. If they wanted to be accepted then they would have never accomplished the great things they did. I know for a fact that not everyone is going to like me, so I don’t see the point of wasting my time trying to make them accept or like me by pretending to be someone I’m not. This, however, was something I didn’t want to think of because I used to have a strong urge for acceptance because I wanted to be everybody’s friend. As I mature and continually evolve into a new person every day, however, I realize that being accepted or everybody’s friend is not going to happen. If I just be myself then I have a greater chance of making friends and actually being around others who share the same interests and care about me. Essentially, they will accept me without me trying.
- Perfection: It seems everybody is trying to be perfect in today’s society. From plastic surgery to have a perfect body or the micromanager boss telling you to do everything his or her way biggest he or she knows best. Being perfect or having perfection, in my opinion, is impossible. I, and no other human, will ever be perfect because we will always have some sort of defect or flaw in who we are and what we do. Although I believe perfection is impossible in our reality, that doesn’t mean we can’t be better. I think we can always get better at anything we do, but we just shouldn’t try to be absolutely perfect because it will not happen.
- Popularity: When most of us think popular, we usually think of a celebrity, such as an actor, singer, or athlete. For the rest of us, however, being popular usually consists of having plenty of friends and being the center attention at almost all times. I can tell you I’m not that, probably because of my laid back personality, but being popular isn’t always good. Look at the various dictators throughout history, for example. Adolf Hitler and Saddam Hussein are just a couple popular ones, but I do not think any of us would want their popularity. If you have something positive and good for others, and even perhaps the world, I believe people will find out about you one way or another.
- Sophistication: This may be a little surprising, but I don’t think sophistication is an absolute true value to possess, or at least in a particular manner. No offence to any doctors, Ph.D.’s, or anyone of similar stature, but when I always hear or talk to one most seem to display an unusual amount of pompous arrogance. I think this is solely because they think they’re “sophisticated.” Sophistication to me is having an abundance of knowledge, skills, logic, and understanding of the world that the average person does not possess. By my definition this sounds like a fantastic value, but I think with sophistication has to come some sort of humility to balance it out. If we fail to do so, sophistication will act as a double-edged sword that may result in the loss of who we are and create barriers to people that may be beneficial to us.
I hope I got you thinking about what values you hold close to you and what values don’t mean that much. So feel free to leave your thoughts on my list or share your own list with me in the comments below. Thanks for reading!